9 smart tips for choosing the right life partner

There comes a time when every man or woman faces the challenge of finding a partner. It can happen early or later in life, but if you decide to get married, choose carefully. If you are also looking for “marriage material”, it will do you good to know some parameters to choose the right life partner. While we agree that a person doesn’t always stay the same, there are some basic checks you need to do for a personality check. This is the least you can do to reduce the chances of ending up in a toxic relationship or an unhappy married life.

Tips for choosing the right life partner

1. Looks aren’t everything

Yes, everyone likes a handsome husband or partner, but that can’t be the be-all and end-all. Don’t just rely on looks. Remember: “All that glitters is not gold”! So when you look at the qualities that a perfect life partner should have, look at the big picture – the personality, the compatibility, the mental wavelength, the similarities, differences, and worldviews. What good is a dashing man if he indulges in verbal bashing? So make a wise choice.

2. Decode the behavior

Long gone are the days when you met your groom after the wedding. Use the time to get to know your partner as well as possible. Make sure you spend enough time with them to understand their daily habits. The more time you spend together, the deeper your understanding of how he or she behaves towards you and everyone else around you. This will help you make the right choice for a life partner and lay the foundation for a healthy partnership.

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3. Pay attention to etiquette and basic nature

The basic nature of a person never changes. Whether he is calm, angry, dominant, dismissive, passionate, chivalrous, confident or not is something to keep in mind. Pay attention to details in your conversations. See if he asks your opinion on a place or a menu, how he behaves towards the restaurant staff, or even you, see how he eats and talks. You don’t have to feel like a detective, but only a person married to someone who makes noise while eating can tell you how annoying it can get later in life!

The more you observe, the better off you will be in choosing the right life partner. And don’t just keep this for your first date, because that’s when they’ll be on their best behavior. Look for consistency, or lack thereof, in the person’s behavior before answering a call.

4. Find a connection

Making the right connection with a person you need to spend your life with is extremely important. You shouldn’t have to force conversations with this person. Whether it’s food, music, travel, news or views, there should be something to help you connect. Also, a healthy relationship is one in which both partners are not afraid to speak their minds. Communication is the basis of a happy relationship.

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5. Weigh your similarities and differences

Haven’t we heard that “opposites attract”. Well, when choosing the right life partner, just make sure you aren’t so different that you stop connecting later in life. However, if you are too similar, it can also spell trouble for the relationship. Marriage should be like fire and ice – when one flares up let the other quench. It’s also good to have some things in common because those are the things you can enjoy together.

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6. Don’t miss the IQ

The intelligence quotient is an important factor in choosing the perfect life partner. And that’s not to say that you’re reviewing your academic and professional history. Well, you’re welcome to do that, because financial security is a big part of marriage, but try not to choose a partner who tries to make you feel like a lesser being in any way. Anyone even remotely intelligent will be wiser about this! On the other hand, you should focus on your own financial independence.

7. Avoid choosing a partner with a sharp difference in standard of living

Marriage is said to be a union of families rather than of two persons. You need to realize that marriage isn’t just for a few rosy honeymoon days. It’s (mostly) a lifelong affair. So be wise about the family background and the person’s reputation. Whether you’re coming into a lower-income family or a higher-income family, you may face similar adjustment challenges. However, if you’re ready to take the plunge and your partner is there to support you no matter what, you should take the call!

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Love needs you both to be on the same page. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

8. Respect is paramount

All said and done, you are free to weigh your options however you want, but when a relationship lacks respect it is as good as a death trap. You will end up feeling suffocated and suffocated. Respect for you, your family, your choices, your ideologies, your priorities are all important aspects of surviving a marriage. Just never make the decision to be with someone who looks down on you because that’s not one of the good qualities in a life partner.

9. What is the rush?

Hasty decisions can go wrong. But we are in a country that places undue emphasis on “marriageable age”. Often people get stuck in unhappy marriages because of family pressures. There is no rush to make a decision because, as mentioned, getting married can be a life changing decision. Avoid saying “yes” until you’re sure he’s the ONE!

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