Are you struggling with thoughts of what people are going to say instead of what you really want to do? Don’t worry! It’s easy to get stuck in the spider web of others’ opinions, but you need to know how to stop worrying about others and free your mind from the hiccups!
“Thinking about the opinions of others is pretty natural for most people. Developing an independent and individualized thought process is not always easy and is not necessarily encouraged during the adolescence years,” says clinical psychologist Dr. Kamna Chibber versus Health Shots.
If you continue to maneuver your life as people see fit instead of focusing on your dreams and desires, one day you will feel suffocated. Having social anxiety is not worth it!
We have one life, ladies, let’s live it! After all, ‘Kuchh toh log kahenge…’, and we might as well do things our way.
Tips to stop worrying about what other people say
There are ways people can work on building more conviction and belief in their own unique way of thinking. dr Chibber suggests the following ways to deal with negative comments from others.
1. Think about what is important to you
Keep working to focus on what’s important to you. Realize that people will always have different priorities and that this neither increases nor decreases the importance or relevance of your own independent thought process.
2. You can’t control what other people think
You can’t stop people from thinking what they want, but you can certainly focus their attention on what you need to do. Being able to focus your attention on your tasks and activities is helpful in breaking away from worrying about what others might be thinking.
3. Your actions are your choice
Build the perspective that it doesn’t matter how people think of you because of your actions or the way you think. Rather, what matters is how your actions might affect people. If you focus on that, you can stop worrying about how others perceive you.
4. Your lens is the best lens
You have the best viewing lens and you know your intent and rationale. No one else can really understand where or why your thinking is the way it is. Determine what works best and work to improve it to help you achieve your goals.
5. Be confident
Ground yourself in the understanding you have of what you are doing and why you are doing it. Greater self-awareness and understanding can facilitate the process of letting go of worry and concern about the perceptions of others.
6. Not everything can be perfect
Don’t strive for perfection. Strive to keep improving and work to reach your potential. Remember that you will still make mistakes and it is okay to go through this process as it is a learning curve that will stay with us throughout life.
7. Recognize your achievements
Give yourself positive affirmation by acknowledging and praising what you have achieved. Look for the good that comes from what you do and how you do it. Stay aligned with your entire value system so you don’t experience inner dissonance.
8. Your perception may not always be correct
Finally, remember that whatever you may perceive may not be the exact reality of the situation. Mind reading about how another feels about you and how you think is usually inaccurate. So instead of listening to people’s opinions, continue to maintain your belief in what you do and why you do it.
By practicing these, you can stop worrying about others and focus on yourself!